Modern society is funny, it's like relationships don't mean anything anymore. There's a high divorce rate, people are cheating on eachother left right and centre, we don't seem to care about committment anymore. Those out there who are happy in their relationships are lucky, and work hard at it. Children are dating, young girls and boys are losing their virginity at ages as young as 13. Those three words "I love you" have no meaning behind them, they're words thrown out there to say you like someone, or you care about them. They're words used to get someone into bed, or get something that you want. People had it right in the old days (no, I don't mean 1960's) back when you courted for a long time before you got married, and when you did, he asked your father first, and he got down on one knee and asked you, he didn't propose over dinner by putting the ring in your dessert, he didn't propose on tv, and he didn't propose over a screen at a hockey or baseball game. Weddings were simple, yet extravagant, these days they're something to stress over and could put a lot of pressure on the relationship.
Love isn't something to be played around with, it's not a word that should be thrown around lightly, just like hate. When you love someone you care about them so deeply that if they were to go away, you would always be in love with them you couldn't be in another relationship three weeks later, you would have a hard time getting into a new relationship because that person is always on your mind. It doesn't happen in a couple days, or a couple weeks, and it certainly doesn't happen overnight. Love needs time to develop, it needs care, and trust. Love needs respect and it needs time. So many people tell me my boyfriend is an asshole because he doesn't love me, but I don't love him either, we care about eachother a lot, we take care of eachother, and can have long conversations about everything under the sun.
Our relationship isn't easy, and sometimes I wonder why I'm even bothering, but then I realize it's because he's special, he's the only person who isn't related to me to call me beautiful, he's the one person who makes me feel good every day, he makes me want to accomplish all my goals, and makes me want to enjoy life to the fullest. He'll do little things to make me feel like I am the best girlfriend in the world, and unlike many boyfriends out there, he never, ever, complains about me, even a little bit, because if he has a problem that we need to work out, he can talk to me about it. We realize that our relationship isn't going to last forever, but we want to make the most of every moment we have together. I know so many girls who have gone through so many boyfriends, and they've probably never had what we have, something that isn't rushed, and taken day by day. They've probably also never had to go through some of the things I've gone through with him, but that's ok, I don't mind going through these things, because when we finally work it out, it was worth it, I've learned so much, and so has he.
So weather you're 13 and going on your first date, or your 60 and happily married, try harder to understand the other person, try harder to make sure you're in love before you say it, and think about your relationship a little more often, because chanses are, if you're 13 and you think you're in love, you're not.
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